Self-Esteem is a funny thing, we attach it to so many things like how we look, what job we have, our relationships, our education. I wish so many people can see that they matter, that they make an impact here on earth. You do not have to be famous, look drop-dead gorgeous or have to have a fantastic education. Lots of people forget this; we are our harshest critiques hence I put together some Self-Esteem Booster Points for you. If you feel low, read it, so you understand that indeed “YOU DO MATTER, A LOT!!!!”
You come in contact with more people than you think you are
On average during your lifetime you have contact with 80,000 different people (source: https://blog.adioma.com/counting-the-people-you-impact-infographic/). Think about this 80,000 that is a massive number. It might be the person at the till in the supermarket you exchange words with, your postman/postwoman, your colleagues. This number is very likely to increase due to contact you have on social media and the internet. Not only do you meet these people but you also will have an impact on them. Some will remember you more than others.
We all feel low sometimes
Feeling low or depressed is a normal occurrence. We all go through this in different stages of our lives. Especially when we lose something like a job, a partner or a friendship. Depression helps us to work towards the acceptance that things are permanently changing in our life and that we need to embrace it. Sit down and practice mindfulness, listen to what your needs are, very often we suppress them. Be kind and gentle to yourself.
It is all about how you make people feel
The brilliant Maya Angelou said it perfectly:
I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
We all sometimes pay too much attention to how we look, we worry about our imperfections far too much. Think about it, the people who make you feel loved, wanted and were kind to you and encouraging, these are the people you very likely remember. If you are a kind and caring person that sticks to people’s minds a lot more. By any means, buy nice clothes, workout and live healthily, but looks are not everything. A kind and caring heart are far more powerful than you think it is.
You have a lot of gifts and talents
Yes, you do, but obviously, you might not be able to see them. Because guess what? Yes, they are normal to you. Maybe you are a fantastic cook, writer or listener. The things you love to do and the things that are easy for you these are your talents. Trust me; you have at least one thing you are brilliantly at where other people would fail miserably. However we humans seem to be obsessed to highlight our flaws, weaknesses, and failures in life.
Contact your nurturing friends
And please I do not mean your friends who are nurturing your misery and tell you how crap and hopeless this world is. I mean the friends who give hope, tell you that there is always a way and the people who believe in your dreams. You do not need toxic people who tell you that life only will go down from now on. Declutter and detox from these people. Meet up or talk regularly to your nurturing friends, I promise it will rub off on you. If you do not have any nurturing friends, I highly advise you to take up a hobby that aligns with your talents and join groups. When you meet people with the same interests, these are YOUR PEOPLE.
Learn how to love yourself 100%
Love yourself, 100%. Of course, we sometimes are a bit grumpy with ourselves that is okay, forgive yourself for feeling like this. Become your biggest fan. Highlight what is special and unique about you. You attract love and positive people into your life when you learn to accept and love yourself. We all know people who have this certain something even though they might not look very obviously beautiful. Like I said it is not about the looks, it is about how much love you share with other people. How kind you are, not only to other people but also to yourself.
Connect with nature
A lovely walk at the beach, through the woods or at the park. We all need the connection to nature, our body craves sunlight and moving our body also gets rid of stress hormones.
Self-esteem is a mindfulness practice. We all can have bad days or bad times. You are beautiful, you matter, and you definitely make an impact in this world. And out there are people who adore and appreciate you, but unfortunately, we human beings are sometimes too shy or embarrassed to tell people that.